Welcome to Eloquence to Opulence, a mini-series, where we will be teaching you how to master the art of socializing and the fundamental techniques in handling relationships with people. Everything we go over is aimed to help you excel in business, personal relationships, and day-to- day social interactions. Refining your current skills, breaking bad social habits, and having a deep desire to learn and master the principles of human interaction are all massive factors in becoming successful in business and in life.
Everyday we are meeting with new clients, working with employees, and are maintaining our relationships with our friends and loved ones. We do this day after day. It’s in our nature; humans are social beings. However sometimes we get comfortable with how well our relationships are going and may neglect to nurture the people we interact with daily. One massive factor in maintaining a long-lasting relationship and having solid business connections is giving honest and sincere appreciation. Now I said appreciation. Appreciation that is genuine and hearty. I am not talking about your everyday flattery such as telling someone “Good job!”, which is notably one of the most unhelpful, insincere, and empty compliments known to man. Flattery is selfish, it tells the person what they already think of themselves and feeds their ego. But appreciation and expressing your gratitude towards others feeds their hearts and educates them that they hold qualities in which we are thankful for.
“Make it a habit to tell people thank you. To express your appreciation, sincerely and without the expectation of anything in return. Truly appreciate those around you, and you’ll soon find many others around you. Truly appreciate life, and you’ll find that you have more of it.” -Ralph Martson
We struggle for a feeling of importance everyday, so when someone else expresses gratitude and appreciation for what we’ve done our bond with them strengthens. Since their appreciation is genuine we can trust them. Showing your employees honest appreciation will have them develop a more trusting relationship and your words will carry more meaning. When they fail, your criticism will be seen as a motive for them to succeed. And when they do well, your appreciation will reinforce their good habits. Being kind to others and honest and sincere appreciation will have people cherishing your words and repeating them for a lifetime.